I don’t like the word tribe. Every time I see a meme on Facebook (gasp…even on the Mommy Fitness page) that tells me to “find my tribe,” my stomach turns over just a little. Maybe it’s because I’m a Midwestern American. I don’t have tribal roots. I’m Irish. When I think of a tribe, I imagine people living in the jungle eating off of banana leaves. I don’t live in the jungle. I live in Omaha, Nebraska, where I can drive to the grocery store 24 hours a day and pick up ice cream. I don’t depend on a group of people for my everyday needs. I’m not a tribal girl…
But then again, maybe I am. I need my aunt to help watch my son so I can get some much-needed housework done. I need my monthly cooking
club, where I get together with my closest friends and have deep adult conversations. I need my Cardio&Strength class to cheer me on when I really didn’t want to get out of bed that morning, because I was up 3 times in the night. I really do need other moms, friends, and family in my life. Finding those people is so important.
I was just talking the other day with a friend about how important it is to choose well the people we surround ourselves with. Our friendships influence us in ways, big and small. It really is important. When I was just starting my journey of motherhood, it was so overwhelming… getting advice from Google, the doctor, or the stranger at Target. I tried to be careful who I listened to (and to stayed off Google at 3 am when I was feeling some strange ailment). I went to my girlfriends for advice on what diaper bag was the best or if I really needed a pack-n-play. But I looked forward to my time with other pregnant moms going through the same things as me. I always knew that at Mommy Fitness, I would gain a little more information for my journey, a hug, or encouragement along the way. It was and still is a part of my motherhood journey.
So I guess I do need a tribe. I need my girlfriends and fellow moms. I need them in my life to help encourage and support me. I need to find people who will give me life and that I can in turn be life giving. We all need a tribe. (But I still don’t think I need to like the word!)
Diane Newcomer is mom to John and wife to Russ. Before taking on the job of raising John full time, she taught English to adults. She loves exercising at Mommy Fitness, going to MOPS and podcasting on A Guy A Girl and A Kid with Russ.Tags: moms. motherhood, Omaha, Omaha fitness, Omaha Moms, Omaha women